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The first thing I asked when my baby was born, was “is the baby breathing? Is he okay?” I had a 12 hour exhausting labour. My vagina out for the world to see. While I was in agony, getting stitched up and losing blood my husband asked the nurse, “hows the baby doing?” While I struggled to get up and cried in pain a nurse entered my room and asked “are you going to breastfeed?” and latched a painful angry piranha to my unsuspecting nipples. A doctor entered my room and asked “how many feeds has he had?” While I wiped my tears because I was struggling. I couldn’t get the damn piranha to latch. She hadn’t notice I had been crying and told me she’d be back later to help me. She never came back. I met other new mothers, and our questions was always about our babies. About their sleep and their routines. I didn’t even know their names. I had 7 appointments. I was asked 100’s of questions. All of them about my baby. I was asked once, when I was pregnant, but when that baby left my body, I was no longer asked. Not even I dared to ask myself. But if they had asked me how I was, they would have known I was struggling. If they asked me how I was doing, they would have known I was scared. If they just asked me if I was okay, they would have known I wasn’t. I could have spoken up, but it’s not so easy. You have a place in society now. You are a mother now. You’re not meant to dry retch when you see your babies meconium, let alone complain that you aren’t coping. People will tell you that you’re lucky to have had a baby and you should be grateful because everything goes quick and who wants to seem ungrateful? Who wants to say that when their baby cries it feels like needles to their head? And they just feel SO lonely. But now you listen to me and you listen good; We are not just a body. We are not just a vessel. We are not just an old life that is discarded once we have served our purpose to make another. We aren’t just so-so’s mum, the invisible woman in the background making everything tick. You are the emotional rock, you are the last kiss goodnight and if you aren’t coping, if you aren’t happy? No one can be. So what I’ve learned after three children and

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